Trust And Adjust

I love the phrase trust and adjust. A lot of times in in my day-to-day life, I have an idea of how I think things are going to go, or the way I want them to be. Then, they turn out completely different. When this happens, I’ve learned to pause, breathe, and drop in—which simply means arriving in the place where I'm at. I experience the disappointment, and then I choose to trust where I'm at and adjust my thinking.

The keyword in that is trust. So how do I trust myself? How do I really know what trust feels like? The tools that I use and the techniques that I teach in my courses and my one-on-one sessions really help instill a sense of trust in yourself and your own inner wisdom.

I can just decide: I'm going to trust the moment right now. I'm going to stop struggling against what is, and simply be here in this moment, allowing myself to feel however I feel, and then let that direct where I'm going to go, or how I'm going to proceed.

I'm going to trust the moment right now. I'm going to stop struggling against what is, and simply be here in this moment, allowing myself to feel however I feel.

Adjust is allowing yourself to change your ideas about how you thought it was going to be. To simply allow and decide that you’re going to adjust to what's occurring. Letting yourself be in the flow of what is. We hear that a lot—be in the flow. Well, this is one of the ways you can do that.

It's really easy to trust and adjust when it's just you. But what about when you’re with others? Sometimes we will disregard ourselves to adjust to what someone else wants. But there are ways to work with this, and one is really knowing what it is you want and not explaining yourself too much.

Just allow yourself to say, “I changed my mind.”
Or, “This is different than I thought it was going to be.”
Or, “No, I don't want do what it is that you're asking me to do.”

That's another powerful way to trust and adjust. And that takes practice.